Skip to main content

Crippling fear

When you are stressed or worried about something, you are living in fear. When you worry about something, you are basically affirming that you want and believe this stressful event is going to happen to you. You dwell on it so much that before long, it becomes a reality.

When you stress about a thing, you really are crippling yourself. There are things you can change and things you cannot, and if you keep worrying about something, you add much stress to your life and keep yourself from being truly happy. A little stress is good, its called eustress and can result from buying a new item, giving a speech or even taking a test. The crippling stress is distress and this results from long time worry and fear.

When you feel this crippling fear, or if you feel overwhelmed by a negative thought, kill it in its tracks by changing your focus. Focus on the things you have and the things you need to be thankful for. Focus on the good you do in the world and that everyday is a new day with endless possibilities

Begin to channel your energies on opportunities and your abilities. Imagine your life creating value in your onw life as well as everyone you interact with. Believe that you are on this journey for a reason and sometimes that reason, although prevalent, may not be clear for you. Don't allow yourself to worry…it causes you to age faster and die sooner.r.

Life is more about the reaction you take when faced with a dilemma. Don't sit around anticipating the worst as you will draw that into yourself When a problem arises, focus on the logical step by step process to eliminate the problem at hand. You are stronger when you are living in love and not dwelling on fear, for worry will only add to your misery.

Focus on the doing and being and seeing of this great land. Know that not everything is perfect, but that the more you focus on your love and energy, the better the quality of people that come into your life.

Until next time...


Popular posts from this blog

Feels like a throat punch to my heart

So, I thought today was going to be just another Sunday of lounging around and netflixing.  I don't think I have ever been so wrong in my life.  To start with, Facebook reminded me of my memories.  I happened to click on a friends link and decided to follow another link to my very first girlfriends sisters page.  Its random how I got there, but I blame facebook.

To my shock, I saw that her sister had passed on the 22nd of November.  I was shocked because I knew that she wasn't that old.  I reached out to an old mutual acquaintance and found out it was pretty sudden and unexpected.  That had me in some kinda mood.  Because of that, I began to text and email friends and check in and make sure then were okay.

I got a text message from a close colleague I used to work with at a previous job.

Beck: "whats shakin CB"
Me: "Not much just wanted to say hello.  Had a wake up call today.  Found out first girlfriends sister just passed away.  So sad...she was young"

Screw back up plans

Yes I said it.  Yes I have had quite a few unsuccessful ventures and I have recently started reading blogs that suggest backup plans.  I don't agree and I will tell you why.

When you have a back up plan you have an "oh shit that didn't work and I have to do something about it". Its like whatever it is going on in your life is going to fail or stop being at some point. Newsflash: You are correct!  NOTHING lasts forever. Your job, your marriage, your income stream, your family and most certainly not your startup or your job.  For those of you wishing to go back to the old days, its not going to happen.  The age of chivalry is dying and the startup that you create will be dead within 10-15 years.  We don't live in our parents or grandparents economy. Hell the way we communicate is changing. See example below and try and decipher what I am saying to you


Did you figure it out yet.  If so, please pat yourself …

Just a friendly update on me :-)

Hey everyone

Just wanted to give an update. You may remember that I said I was going to be coming back to California, well it is official.  I am heading down May 1. I will most likely take the train and stop in Napa to visit my cousin Stephen Bordes at his winery for a day or two.  From there, I will catch a train to San diego.

I am currently looking for work and open to any positions that may be available, I just ask that you don't hold it against me because I have a masters degree.  I have seen many companies shy away from hiring me because I have a Masters Degree.  I am honestly looking to get off my feet and find a base of operation. My home is California and I know that now.  I am native and the air, soil and water are in my bones.

I am looking to establish which means I will need to find a place to live (that I pay for monthly), maybe even get a car (down the road) for now I know that I will have to use the bus and I am okay with that. I am nervous as hell about this move …