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Another year and time to reflect

So tomorrow I turn 38. Last year, my bud Noah and I were off to Vegas with my good friend Bobbi. We had a blast staying up late, walking the strip and meeting new people. This year, I have forgone any trips to go on a trip to South America in September. I look forward to the adventure and where I may end up on the journey.
What have I learned in this last year? Too many to list, but there are a few that stick.
1. Treat your friends as you wish to be treated. A good mentor once told me, "Chad, in order to have friends, you have to be one," It may sound cliche, but it is true. Often times in life we love having friends, but we hate having to listen to the drama in their lives, or possibly the mundane things that they may have to say. They may seem boring or mundane to us, but to them its important and sometimes they need to get that off their chest. When someone confides in you, it is an honor, a symbol of respect and trust.
2. Live each day as if it is your last. …

and then one day, it just slaps you in the face

So i woke up today with the usual zest in my heart and spark in my eye. I was excited for the day and was up, showered, shaved and ready to go by 7am. I didn't have to be at the airport until 10am so i felt great about being ahead of schedule. I brushed my teeth and got my gel ready and thats when i noticed it, the lone gray hair that official says "you are old".
I was hoping not to spot one til I was at least 45, but mine came early. Not yet 38 and there in the mirror was the one thing that is a reminder that we all will one day pass from this majestic place. The gray hair symbolizes, to me, the end of my youth and the passage into the adult stage of life. It also represents that I should be at a different place in my life than those around me.
I guess this could be as shocking to some as say getting the news that your wife is pregnant, or that your son/daughter is going to graduate college. For those of us that have remained in the single realm of life, it is a sh…

Is There Hope for the American Marriage?

Is There Hope for the American Marriage?

This is a very well written article by Caitlin Flanagn. I feel she did a great job to show the woes in todays society due to marriage, but in order to be fair, i must look at the other side and why marriage isn't the end all be all that we were trained to believe it was. That we are in our greatest and best times human. We have human needs and desires. Do i think it is right to have these needs. I think in terms of humanity. We are human and we have desires that make us, just that, human beings.
We try to hold each person up to the God standard. We are not Jesus Christ and when we take those sacred vows, we are somehow held to higher standards. It amazes me that we put people in such high revere just because they have a ring on their finger. It seems that it would be more logical to put that ring on the finger if these people were upstanding parents. Every year we commit life to a child, whether we are married or not, we should get …