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Opinion Piece: Making your life yours

Mark Manson Crushed it with his THE FEAR OF MISSING OUT: OR HOW I LEARNED TO STOP WORRYING AND LOVE INSTAGRAM.  If you haven't had a chance to read it or you don't follow him, do both. He is a gifted writer and seems to write articles exactly when I need to read them. Aside from growing a mullet, drinking beer in a fold up chair, or drinking jack daniels "Leaving Las Vegas" Style, he is definitely a breath of fresh air and a source of my sanity.

A few weeks ago I gave up social media. Completely.  No Facebook, No Instagram, No Snapchat, No Tumblr, No Twitter...nada.  The only social I will be doing is old fashioned phone calls and writing in my blog (aka my journal). I always had this fear that I was missing out on something. I would see cute little families with their perfect post, or I would see these amazing vacation photos and think "Man I wish my life was that good".  This happened every single fucking day.  It was like a religion.  I would wake up and…

Amazing people on my journey: Cassie Frye

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It's was a somber day in the Bordes car yesterday. It was hard to drive yesterday morning without breaking into tears every 10 minutes.  One of my very close friends, Erik lost the love of his life. Words can't really describe what I'm feeling it's a painful yet joyful experience. Joyful in the sense that the person is no longer in pain but painful in that this person is no longer with us.

We go through life thinking that it's forever oftentimes stressing reading about this bill that bill or where we're going to be living in 6 months for what vacation we're going to take next year when in truth we need to be living for this moment and only this moment. There is no other moment.

I've known Erik since I was about 22 years old. I dated his babysitter for several months after a bad breakup.  I never knew if Erik hated me for so many years because I unplugged his nintendo when he had the highest score ever on a video game.  Erik ended up becoming really good…

Amazing People On My Journey: Javier Cazares

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So a few years ago I decided to write about the amazing people I have met along this journey.  So far I have failed miserably.  I haven't been putting my self out there enough.  I got caught up in life and started thinking I could "make a difference" rather than just enjoying and appreciating the ride and drinking in this consciousness like a fine wine or tasting it like a delicious asiago garlic pasta.

This weekend I had the opportunity to meet Javier Cazares.  As many of you know I am amazing friends with Sean Toohey (Tooheys Ties) and have been for sometime.  He came into my life around 2012/13 and I can honestly say I love him so much.  His energy, his story, and who he has become since I met him. Not one thing about him is fake and since the day I have met him, I love his hustle.

This weekend he introduced me to Javier (facebook and instagram).  I put those links there for a reason...follow him. 

I didn't know what to expect when I drove up to Burbank on Friday…

Becoming a minimalist again

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I have pretty much been a minimalist but I want to outline some steps if you were thinking about doing this.  Many people have asked me how to do it and I will share some of my steps here. It is very liberating and very relaxing. In this article I am going to limit the topic to if you are single. Next week I will talk about ways to become a minimalist if you are in a relationship.


Sell everything you own that doesn't own you
This is a tough one but a must.  What I have found is that stuff that you own, really owns you.  I mean that it has some sentimental value to you and that is why you don't want to get rid of it.  (My grandma bought me that, my dad gave that to me before he passed, my ex bought me that a year before we broke up).  You hold onto it because it has some "meaning" to you.  The fear that many people have is that if you get rid of those things in your life, your life will have less meaning and nothing could be further from the truth. Its the things that…

Screw back up plans

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Yes I said it.  Yes I have had quite a few unsuccessful ventures and I have recently started reading blogs that suggest backup plans.  I don't agree and I will tell you why.

When you have a back up plan you have an "oh shit that didn't work and I have to do something about it". Its like whatever it is going on in your life is going to fail or stop being at some point. Newsflash: You are correct!  NOTHING lasts forever. Your job, your marriage, your income stream, your family and most certainly not your startup or your job.  For those of you wishing to go back to the old days, its not going to happen.  The age of chivalry is dying and the startup that you create will be dead within 10-15 years.  We don't live in our parents or grandparents economy. Hell the way we communicate is changing. See example below and try and decipher what I am saying to you

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Did you figure it out yet.  If so, please pat yourself …

Returning

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So I just got back to California last week and I have to say, I can breathe a breath of fresh air. I feel refreshed and invigorated. I see more opportunities than I have seen in awhile and feel connected. It is a great feeling. Feeling like you are needed again does wonders for your spirit. I have felt so disconnected for the last few years. I need to know that what I am doing matters, I need to earn again. I need to know that my masters degree was not in vain. I think the sun and fresh air help people to be more friendly. I also find that I am more creative now. I find that I have more ideas in my head. I just need to make sure that I write them down because it helps me remember everything. Sometimes I have these amazing ideas/thoughts and because I don’t write them down, I lose them. I need to stay on top of that, but I am sure I will because I am feeling much more connected. It has also been so good for me to reconnect with my friends. I love their energy and the love that they se…

Distractions and realities

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This is not going to be easy but I promise to keep it real.  I have a disease that I am not comfortable sharing with anyone. It's a disease that is starting to affect everyone. It's the disease of anti socialism. Its crept into my life and I now see it affecting a vast majority of people in everyday life.

You may not notice it right away, but it's this constant distraction away from what is right in front of us. Good friends, great company, enlightening conversation, & beautiful music. It's the device that keeps our heads buried into a story on snapchat a 100 or a thousand miles away. It's the instagram of someone having a great vacation and eating like a millionaire, while you can barely pay the rent.  It's the guy that's buried in his headphones and music while shoveling food at a non stop rate into his mouth, while no one will talk to him because he is obese.

We are killing ourselves on the daily by working hours at a job we aren't passionate ab…